Friday, 30 December 2016

Broke Days: My Husband and I Started With N10k

This is a story I'm sure many of you guys don't know about and I really feel like it's time to share it with you today,as this year is coming to an end.
Just for a second, looked back at my life,this 2016 that is almost gone and my heart started beating faster because I realized how far we have come. Gratitude I feel makes me wanna cry because God is indeed great. He never fails.

I'm writing this with intention to awake that positive energy of hope and faith in you before we enter this brand new year and make you believe that miracles truly happen when there is Love,Gratitude and Peace in our hearts to invite it in.

Most of you think that my life in Nigeria was nothing but glamorous story,followed by mad parties,red carpet events and comfortable life since I "got me" a Naija celebrity boyfriend.
Lol..If you guys only knew..

The day I came to Nigeria to see Ik,he went to BORROW N10k (which was equal to $50 at that time) just so he can get me from the airport.
Yes guys.
That is the very naked truth.
We met in not so ideal circumstances.

To be very sincere with you,in any other case ,"normal" me would probably carry my load  and go after realizing that I can't have as comfortable life as I pictured (heeey,did I really came all the way to Nigeria to suffer with all those lavish millionaires and oil tycoons around ?Chineke God, I don dey crase?Lol). 

Average African Man's confidence is normally backed up with money and wealth he posses. It's all about what they can do for you or what they can give you that makes them so proud and confident to approach even the most beautiful women on planet earth . Mathematics is simple: no money - no confidence at all.

But then i met Ik. A young man with who was not wealthy,without a big family name but,guys ,the way he was confident.Not arrogant.Confident. That sexy mind blowing confidence.Not only that.There was potential. There was a fire in that man's eyes. Pure determination. Heart of a lion. But so pure and so kind. So honest. Real. Intelligent. Wise.Capable.
There was a  man who eventually became my best friend,who knew my dirty secrets and the naked truth about me and still loved me when I did not even know if I love myself. A woman feels that once in a lifetime.
My common sense has left me so I was there to follow my heart.
Then it got to my head: We could actually have it all.

He loved me from day one. For sure I know. But he was still a man. That's why he felt bad that he can't give me the world he thinks I deserve.I felt his pain.
I looked at him one day. I knew he felt helpless at some point. Told him "Ik ,when I look at you I see a billionaire.You better start acting like one." 

Later on he told me that was somethings I said that completely changed his life.

He loved me for who I am,I believed in him when he had nothing. And that was unconditional. I guess that's when magic happens. 

But let me be honest again: It was not an easy journey at the beginning.
Me,Sonia,"Fine girl",that was always getting things effortlessly everywhere I go.
Secondly in my whole life I was alway running away from commitment.At all this did not make me feel right. I was afraid that I won't get to live life that I alway wanted.I felt like  I had to sacrifice it for sake of some Love like that.For Christ sake,I run away from my home to have a better life then my parents did,not to find myself in the same old shit.

We had ups and downs.
But then things started changing.
How?
I'm far from a perfect woman,but I realized I had a one very special superpower: my words can change lives. I can speak words into existence!
I started speaking life into him. I was telling him about our future.I stopped complaining. Instead on what we did not want,I started refocusing our energy on what we wanted to happen. We stopped talking about bills,lack of money or things we was not capable of doing at that time. Instead,we were talking about cars we gonna drive,places we will travel to,businesses we will run. I didn't nag,or rub things in his face.It was all about creating a right mental picture.Gradually we broke all the limitations because we stopped feeding our worries and fears with complains and bad emotions.We created a new norm: there was no chance you could ever hear us using word "broke".I understood one thing : you must act according things you want to attract,not opposite. Act like you already own it.
I would look at this young man...Nothing he can't do. It was only a matter of encouragement and motivation.

That was the key that got all the doors open.

In one year only he started working almost every day of his life,he got big endorsements,flattering awards and nominations,participated in over 30 movies. Somehow things just start falling into place.We got a beautiful,healthy baby boy.
Second year we got another car. I actually got a car I was always dreaming of. This year we moved to a beautiful,new house. We have started several businesses,sorted out our family company and he produced 2 movies on his own.

All the hard work started paying of.From 0 to 100. Literally.

But do you know what? From this point of my life,I am actually endlessly grateful that we met in time we were both on zero. I think that was what built our foundation strong. He did not won my love with cars and luxury gifts. And he knew all my flaws. And we still had deep love and honest friendship between us.Plus now we can brag how we started from the bottom and now we here (lmao) .

But for real,there is nothing that can make a bond and friendship stronger then a process of building a life from scratch. You watch someone's life changing just in front of your eyes.That is magical.You know that even without everything,there was always something.We held our hands with N10k and we still do when things got way better . 

At times I take things I have now for granted,forgetting how hard I used to pray for them back in the days,and now ,by sharing this with you I feel so damn guilty because a life I live now can't possibly be compared to one I had only 3 years ago.

So please fam,let's start this beautiful year with a right kind of attitude. Faith. Gratitude.
Believe in your choice and in yourself. Do not compare yourself to other people's lives,but wish them well.

And settle for your blessings,confess them everyday,with love and peace in your heart. Do not fear,you are not alone.
And please do let me know when your life starts changing.
I want to rejoice with you.




All the best guys!
Love you

50 comments:

  1. THIS GOT ME LIKE WOOOOOOOOOWWWW!

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  2. Are u for real? You are a wonderwoman

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  3. but most of women wont follow ur footstep. just saying

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  4. ashawo u no get brain ik better get wise before is to late!look for one decent girl. ode.

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    1. Don't mind her with her lose international private part,,, spends her life on instagram and social media,, feeling like she's something when she is zero nothing

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    2. Why are people so fucking mean and negative. Jesus! This kills me. That a young woman shares her story to give hope to others but she gets this mean ass comments. God!

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    3. Your bitter hearts,shallow mindsand negativity will only lead to one thing..Failure!! Find yourself something worthwhile if you can't rejoice with someone!

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  5. You are exceptional.
    i truly enjoy your posts.
    I always learn something new.

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  6. My boyfriend and I are pulling through same situation now.God help us

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  7. Waooooooo. I will make it!

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  8. You will always be a runs girl,,, nothing can change that,,, stop trying to front on top nothing cos ya got absolutely nothing! Ya sleep with those men that ya speak about to put food on ya table,,, ya feed the ik guy but yet he sleeps around with men and women,,, ever questioned his relationship with Alex? Ya better wake up to the harsh truth,,, ya can only deceive the whole world but can't deceive yaself. The house ya talk about is a rented apartment, the car ya talk about is used car. Does not change the fact that he bought you fake Aba made 'channel' bags and "Christin" louboutin shoes.,,, ya came to Nigeria expecting a lavish lifestyle and left ya whole family there because ya had nothing doing for ya self in ya country anyways. Ya have nothing to ya name except what these men give to ya. Ya can lie to the world but can't lie to yaself,,, no wonder why he hasn't married ya the right way or done trad and white wedding for ya. Ya aren't even worth any of those. He will keep sleeping and using ya.

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    1. Is dis ik ex or who else can be this bitter looolzzz

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    2. Hahahahahaha soooo true!!

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    3. Why so pained tho?? All that energy should be channeled into doing more productive things than scrutinizing other people's life! Jealousy is counting another man's success....how about you start counting yours?? Rada rada. Mscheww

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    4. Lol, trad wedding for a white woman? Biko is it your village they'll carry the wine to or it's your elders that'll give IK list? Ewu Gambia. They did registry marriage in a court in her country which is even worth more than your church wedding.

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    5. Hmmm really...atleast the apartment is rented abd is better than sleeping under the bridge...i'm quite sure u still sleep at the back of your mum...get a life dool

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  9. God bless you and your family. Ignore the negative people. thanks for sharing your truth

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  10. The hatred some people spew and you wonder how they want to be happy when all they do is find a fault or judge someone. A quote I saw of recent said you can lie down on the floor for the world to step on you and someone will still complain you are not flat enough. Dear Sonia your words inspire and I pray that all evil thoughts shall not penetrate your family.. they can only hate from outside, they can never get in.

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  11. Bad belle! Thank you Sonia ,this means a lot to me.

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  12. Power in spoken words.. That's faith.. Been grateful is all we need.. May the good lord bless our husbands. Love you sisgal

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  13. Omg i can totally relate. You are awsome ma

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  14. This ik guy n this oyinbo sef

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  15. This is beautiful Sonia. I love your attitude to life. You have the winning formula indeed. Ik is blessed to have you. As for the hate am sure you already know that the anonymous hater is sooooo out of alignment and can only attract more hate into their life. Your abundance strategy is on point girl.
    Much love.

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  16. All ye anonymous haterzzz, you are just miserably jealous, lonely and depressed. How Una wan go far for this life. Dear Sonia, continue to inspire and influence your world jare. Keep soaring high.keep taking over. God bless you. All ye bad belle people nefa see anything keep watching Sonia blossom

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    1. I said it all dear. She is awsome. Thanks for this wonderful piece mrs o

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  17. If i was u i wd be ashamed of this n see u sharing it wiv d world. Nawao

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    1. Just because you lack self confidence and need the world's validation to be happy doesn't mean everyone else is like that you hear? Carry you low self esteem somewhere else please.

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  18. Thxxx for sharing, really inspirational

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  19. Hahahaha keep on dreaming! He will dump Ur hoe ass and marry his naija bride!

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    1. Just d way ur dad dump ur mum and made u homeless....fear God...fool

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  20. Thanks for sharing.
    I love the way you see life.

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  21. God this is so what I'm going through right now with my man. We are always quarreling on finances. Thanks so much for this post Sonia. I now know the attitude to adopt. Thanks.

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  22. God bless you for this post. It will always get better. Hardwork will always pay. ��

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  23. Thank Sonia, this is exactly what I'm going through now because almost everyone I know is advising me to look for an already-made rich guy but I've come to realize that I'd rather work for my own money and be with someone who's doing the same from scratch so we can build together and value each other more cos at the end of the day, a rich guy or his family will just feel a woman is with him because of his money.

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  24. This is amazing Sonia. Positive attitude is always the way to go.
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    1. Or click on my name to go straight to the blog

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  25. God bless you Sonia, u just spoke directly to my soul. It was just like u knew what exactly I'm going through at the moment. U spoke the right words to me. Before reading this post, i was so sad and moody, but after i saw the post, My soul revived back to life,... I would try to begin to speak positively into my situation. Even though it isn't easy... I'm passing through a lot Sonia, presently I have no job, no husband , no money and I was just recently diagnosed with fibroid... I thank God for everything ... God bless u.

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    1. She helped me open my eyes to my blessings and that was time time my life started changing for better. Everything will get better sista,ijn

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  26. Hmmm what is said in encouraging and inspiring

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  27. Reading this brought tears to my eyes. We all should keep believing.
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  28. So much positivity, I read this with tears in my eyes...I'll definitely share mine with you.

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  29. Love you too.. You have really helped in putting me through.

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  30. So inspiring, thank you so much we need more positive words in this world. May God bless you and your gorgeous family

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  31. Wow this just changed my way of thinking

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  32. Lifted!!! Wow!!! You are blessed Sonia

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  33. You just got a new crush Sonia...Nice blog you have here..your are a Golden woman. Never stop shinning

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