You won't believe how many people (Nigerians and non Nigerians) have asked me "Lord Jesus Sonia,what was your parents reaction when you told them you are getting married to a Nigerian?"
Wait. "A NIGERIAN???" .
I swear,some folks sound like I went to marry an alien or something strange to a human kind. SMH
You guys know I live in a world of mine where I don't really give a sh** about race,ethnicity,tribe,religion or what so ever superficial categorization of human beings the whole world seem to stress over, so the way some people put importance and tension into asking this type of questions really did not make much sense to me. Like someone's ethnicity is the most important and relevant "issue" you need to worry about when your child is getting married or what?
Since when is that more important then someone's heart and intentions? Personality? Love maybe? Compatibility between two souls? Hello? Some people sef.
I will have to disappoint you fam,there was no controversy or what so ever drama based on this particular matter when it comes to my own case.
I think ethnicity,color or nationality was not a criteria my parents used to "judge" Ik's values and qualities as a man and a person.
There were clearly far more important features that makes a man "good" or "bad" for your daughter.
I am endlessly grateful to my parents for "sparing" me of this type of drama a lot of mixed couples go through,but I honestly think that their attitude towards the whole situation was nothing but NORMAL,because any form of stereotype,prejudice or hatred based on color,religion,ethnicity etc doesn't just fit in my definition of "normal" thinking.
But I can't lie,both mom and dad had experiences with stupid people here and there asking stupid questions based on this matter. So once a woman asked my mom (with a tone like she is giving her a condolence or something) how is she "managing" and living with a ("terribly upsetting and sad") fact that I got married to an African..Meanwhile her daughter's husband is the same ethnicity,color and religion as she is but that did not stop him from being a wife beater,cheat and alcoholic. What a moment of irony. Hmmm hmmm. My mom just told her "if your son in law was at least as half as good as mine,you would be a happy woman and you would not have to worry about my own " .
My mom is an MVP. Lol
When Ik came to meet them they both fall in love with him . It is really difficult not to because he is really and honestly one of the nicest people I have ever came across.
My mom even got to a "brilliant" idea : "Sonia you know what? Why don't you go back to Nigeria,leave Ik here with us,he is so polite and kind" . (Oh so I am not? Can you guys imagine? Me,Sonia,the only daughter they will ever have! Obara Jesu lol)
For better understanding of a relationship between my parents and my "Nigerian" husband I must share this picture with you:
Yes,this is a picture(very big and massive pictures) I found hanging at the wall at my parents house when I came back to visit them this year. Right in a living room. Yep.
Meanwhile ,did I mention that there is NO ONE SINGLE picture of me framed ANYWHERE in their home. Ehemm.
I am still waiting for an explanation :-)
Will update you when I get one for sure .
Love you plenty!